Encouragement to children is like water and sun to a plant. It helps them grow healthy and strong. When you encourage your child you plant the seed of “worth.” You are letting that child know that he/she is important and what they say and do matter to you. Children thrive on positive attention. Children need to feel loved and appreciated.
Just being out in everyday situations I notice so many parents giving negative feedback and in some cases the children were just ignored. You should really examine the methods in which you respond to your child. If you have been lacking in the encouragement area because you are busy you should pick a time of the day (even if it’s 5 minutes) and just sit down and talk to them. Just see what they have been up to, give hugs, tickle them!
Set your phone each day and make sure that you are giving your kids that positive attention. Practice saying encouraging things to people inside and outside the home. You’ll be surprised how quick it becomes second nature to you. It’s always nice to give people encouraging uplifting words. It shows that you have good character and respect. Your children will follow when you lead by example.
As a Christian I read my kids scripture and we attend church every week to hear words of encouragement and uplifting messages written in the word of God. Jesus Christ lived a perfect life and I can’t think of anything more encouraging than sharing His truth with my kids.
Making a point to encourage your kids starting from infancy can make all the difference in their self esteem, social development, curricular involvement and overall feeling of self worth. Being aware of your tone of voice when you speak is a big part of how your kids feel about themselves and their actions. Try not to sound rushed, annoyed or too loud when you talk back to your children. Listen to their questions and concerns and respond in loving, caring manner.
While occasional yelling won’t damage a child for life it should be avoided at all costs. Practice lowering your voice when you get aggravated and be aware of yourself and the things you say. Parents who constantly yell at their children are subjecting their children to emotional abuse and its damaging. Parents need to find ways of expressing themselves in a more positive, upbeat manner if children are to grow emotionally healthy and stable.